ADHD and Anger- Help for Impulse Control

Dear anonymous,

Impulse control problems are common struggles for adolescent boys with ADHD. ADHD is an inherited disorder that has been associated with lower activity in the front part of the brain, called the prefrontal cortex or PFC. Low activity in the PFC is associated with reduced impulse control (Rheba Estante, Attention Deficit Disorders Association). And the coping skill you taught him served him well as a child, but now that he is older and larger, he will be needing to learn additional skills to cope with feelings of anger and frustration. And yes, there is help out there for you and your son.

There are many types of treatment for ADHD and treatment is usually multimodal, or consisting of a combination of types of assistance. Treatment can include stimulant medication, specialized educational programs or supports, coaching for parents in the use of behavior modification and management techniques, and education and counseling for the adolescent in ways to manage the symptoms. There are also many other types of treatment that have been used that are alternatives to traditional treatment.

A good resource for families is the National Resource Center on ADHD at http://www.help4adhd.org. Here you can find helpful information regarding ADHD diagnosis, treatment, issues for parents, educational issues, and more. You can consult with the center online or by phone at 800-233-4050 to get connected with help for your son.

In terms of your concern about him stopping using his coping skill before learning a new one, he will likely need to use the tools he has until he can be taught others, but perhaps he can use that skill in a more private way to not frighten others who don't understand. By pairing it with the skill of walking away, he can go somewhere private to hit a pillow or other safe target. In addition, getting him involved with sports or some form of physical activity can help give him a healthy outlet for feelings of anger and frustration.

You and your son don't need to go through this alone. There are a lot of resources out there to help your family and thank you for your question.

Best,

Cynthia Klatte, LCSW, ACSW