Sober Coach

Staying sober is difficult. Begin surrounded by people who are supportive and sober is great. However, there is a reason celebrities use coaches that are ideally trained and objective/ non family members. Getting clean also means getting in touch with feelings; anxiety, depression anger. It is easier at times to tell a family member to “leave me alone” when it is time to go to a meeting, than it is to tell this non partial.

If you do this have realistic expectations. You cannot keep him sober. If he chooses to drink he will find a way. He needs to change his life. You are not changing his life. He needs to go to meetings or to do whatever he has planned to get support from others in recovery. It would be helpful if you started to attend Al-Anon so you can understand what the family goes through and what you need to do to take care of yourself in this process. This coaching process is not a long term endeavor. He has to stand up on his own two feet and make good decisions whether you are there or not.