Couple work

 

I assume you have already spoken to your husband about the idea of counselling, and he has dismissed it.  This is a difficulty you share with many women who understand the value of counselling but find that their husbands are less than enthusiastic.  Perhaps this is because women tend to communicate their emotions more ably than men do.  Often a wife or female partner will finally talk her husband into at least trying one counselling session, and he will go, albeit unwillingly, sometimes just to prove his point that it's a waste of time and money.  When he sees that he is not going to be labelled the "bad guy" by the counsellor, and that there is a safe place for him to have a voice about how he really feels in the relationship, and what he'd really like to see change, he becomes  eager to return for another session.

 

Suggesting that your husband try one session just to see how it goes may be one way forward for you.  If he is still uninterested, there is no harm in seeking counselling for yourself; this may help you to navigate your relationship with your husband better.