The Worst Type of Powerlessness

The worst type of powerlessness is watching a child suffer and being unable to stop/prevent it. Unfortunately, there is nothing that you c an do to prevent her drug use currently. I encourage you to continue to reach out and perhaps if you're able to leave voicemail, send cards or notes be clear that you're concerned and wanting to help. Even still she is unlikely to respond but this approach has some potential to work - shaming or threatening has no possibility of working.

If you are able to report illegal activity on her part (objectively not opinion) to local law enforcement I encourage you to. I urge you to contact your local Child Protective Services (the names vary by state, in Maine it's the Department of Health and Human Services). Report to them that she is known to be abusing multiple substances and they will intervene (hopefully) when the child is born.

Good luck and blessed be,

Jim